Salamalayk.

I always wonder when looking to siblings which the younger is more better than the elder. Be it in Academics, sports, or even talent.

Doesnt the elder felt any jealousy towards the younger??

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During my school days, I came across a sibling that was different. They were the opposite of each other. Appearance, attitude, and of course, their brain.

Yes, I know, everyone is supposed to be unique but in siblings usually, USUALLY, they are similarities. Maybe I’m too blind to spot the similarities,who knows.

Yet the same question keep wondering in my mind. Doesnt the elder felt any jealousy towards the younger??

Lots of movies and dramas shows that these factors can trigger jealousy and hatred among siblings. But then again, I thought, Hey, I’m a big sista my myself!. and I laugh.

Yes, i’m the eldest among the siblings in my family. 1 of 10. (it supposed to be 11 but the 10th passed away in my ummi’s tummy when he was 2 months)

So when I asked the same question towards myself, it was something that never came across my mind, both jealousy and hatred was what i felt a long way back when i was like in standard 4 or five. Why?? because I felt like my father loves my sister more.

Childish right??. But in terms of achievement and talents, I was never jealous what more to hate my siblings like that. I’m not that clever. My brothers and sisters scores more than me in their national exams.

Instead of Jealous, I was PROUD. Yes. Really proud. if they scored, It makes my parents more happy. If not, i’ll be blaming myself cause I may be the part of the reason my lil brothers and sisters didnt score and do well.

So yeah, the answer just sort of come around on its own. I was too busy looking at others, while the answer was in me.. Of Course, The Almighty Lord had given the hints to make me solve it on my own. Alhamdulillah.

I watched an Indonesian movie and realised that I still have a long way to go to be a good sister. May He bless me here and hereafter. Ameen.

p/s : This is purely based on my own experienced. Different families have different situation. Feel free to disagree!! >_<

p/s 2: The General Election is next month!! HAPPY VOTING!!!

Assalamualykum (^_^)V

YES. REALLY NEED THIS

- Umar Bin Al Khattab (RA)

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Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.

Recently this topic has been haunting me. (ok that was overly described) What more with my increased age this year(whose not?), my friends at my age even had kids! my brothers marriage(he’s a year younger than me!), and yes, my parents mentioned this now and then, mostly because their friends son or daughter that are the same age as mine has been married, my friends wedding, Barakallahumma to those recently tied their knots :), my Grandfather remarrying, & etc

Ok now i’m rambling. The reason I’m writing on this topic is not because I’m getting married (yes I’m single). Its just, marriage has been a favourite topic of people around me. And the process towards tying the knot is totally not an easy job.

Marriage in Islam is a Sunnah, and is encouraged among the believers. Its a ‘fitrah’ within human itself to be with someone as their lifelong partner. So marriage is the solution.

“marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or that which your right hands possess. That will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice” (4:3)

In choosing partners for life is not as simple as choosing fish in the market (direct translation lol). Criterias are observed. Theres no turning back once the knot is tied. For God sake, its gonna be for a lifetime so choose well!!

In case a Man Looking for a Woman:

The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, “A woman is normally sought as a wife for her wealth, her beauty, her nobility, or her deen (religiousness), so choose a religious woman and you will prosper.” (Muslim)

In case a Woman’s Family Looking for a Man:
The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, “When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied, asks to marry your daughter, agree to his request. If you do not do so, there will be corruption and great evil on earth.” (Tirmithi)

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“To ensure a barakah marriage life, it all starts from the process in searching for your spouse” ~my Ummi

I agree with her. The PROCESS itself plays a huge role. How do we aspect that or marriage will be in His blessing when from the start when the starting point itself is stained with sins??

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Yes, relationships that is filled with uncalled “love” that leads each other to astray. Dont get me wrong. Love is pure. its a gift from Him for His servants. it is us human that made love to a degraded level.

So, let us start anew. Purify our intention. Tie the knot because of Him, to attain His blessings, here and hereafter. Insha Allah.  For those who has not yet find their soulmate, believe in Him. He knows what is the best for us. When the time comes, surely He will guide you to your soulmate. if not here, in Jannah. Ameen. (^_^)V

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p/s 1: I have no experience in a boy girl relationship whatsoever, but this doesn’t mean I cant learn from others experience right??

p/s 2: I recommend “Sebelum Aku Bernikah” authored by Hilal Asyraf. Its in Malay, since Malay is my first language. Anyone has any suggestion on motivational books regarding road to marriage in English??

Assalamualaykum (^_^)V